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My Story

I started writing about dating about five years ago after a particularly bad relationship.

The break up was long, painful and full of drama...how could a writer ask for more.

As a result of that relationship and breakup I became very passionate about dating and relationship tips.

My love and relationship journey has been a long one. I had my first kiss at 14 and my first relationship at 16.

It took me fourteen years of a lot of dating, multiple relationships and great heartache before I found the man of my dreams.

The reason I decided to write a book about dating and develop this website is that I wanted to share the very important lessons I learned about how to find love.

The big lesson was that my level of self love was in direct relation to my success with love and relationships.

I want everyone to have the love that they deserve. I have found the man of my dreams this year and I think everyone should know what it took me years to figure out.

How I turned it all around with Self Love

Self-love really is the core of happiness in or out of a relationship and it took me a long time to realize this.

It was a long journey of many ups and down in a series of relationships.

I was living in a small village in the mountains of the Canary Islands at the time in what many would describe as ‘paradise’ and yet I wasn’t happy.

I got sick and had to spend 10 days in bed, with no friends, no TV, no phone and no internet.

There wasn’t much else to do besides reflect on my life and as I was in a relationship that was having some trouble I decided to do some serious relationship analysis.

I tried to find common themes among my failed relationships, I tried to chart my happiness over the years compared to the mates I had chosen, I tried everything.

There were some good insights from my relationship data analysis; I saw that I was attracted to a certain type of man, that I repeated patterns of dating men who were not equal partners.

But my most important revelation was that throughout my life the men came and went, family and friends came and went, but I was always with one person.

There was one person I could rely on; I could seek for strength, support, love and understanding…ME!

The Secret to Finding Love

It was an absolutely freeing realization that as long as I loved myself, I would always be loved.

It was like an amazing new secret that I had with myself. It made me far less needy in my relationships because all other love I received was in addition to the special relationship I was developing with myself.

Right after I finished writing my book I met the man of my dreams just like I knew I would.

It took me years of hard work, painful lessons and gathering pearls of wisdom from some great women.

I hope to share all of that with you in these pages.

More about me

I am an expert author not just about dating but also about politics, business and a even a few poems (ok I was 12 but they got published!)

When I'm not writing about dating or coaching people on improving their love lives I'm a part-time college professor and business consultant.

How did I start a successful website?

I wrote a book and that was the easy part. But then how was I going to sell it?

Looking at the publishing world was very intimidating and so I started researching how to sell online.

I didn't know anything about online business but I was lucky enough to get a recommendation for an amazing program that helped me take my passion for dating and turn it into a successful business.

Using this program I had traffic within the first few weeks and without too much work and with no real understanding of the online world my site now ranks within the top 5% of all website worldwide!

Wow, even I'm still surprised.